I recently took a break from reading The Confidence Gap (not because I disliked it in the least, but because I like to mix up what I’m reading sometimes) so I decided to check out The Fighter’s Mind by Sam Sheridan. I’m always interested in hearing someone tell a story from their perspective, so I figured this book could act as a sort of unofficial sports psychology book, which is something that interests me.
As someone who enjoys psychology, and specifically sports and work psychology, The Fighter’s Mind turned out to be an excellent book to read. Sam Sheridan interviewed several people in the fighting world, asking them questions about what makes someone a good fighter. But the qualities that he discovered aren’t limited to success only in fighting, but in all walks of life.
Here are a few takeaways from the book, as well as my reflection on my own life while reading the book, that I’d like you to keep in mind, whether you’re mentoring someone or you’re the one learning:
- How you deal with and perceive failure/defeat/setbacks is important. Learn how to learn from these adversities. You need practice and failure in order to improve
- You become what you believe you are. Success is a self-fulfilling prophecy, and if you believe that you cannot do something then you’ve made yourself incapable of doing it
- Coaches need to believe in their students; Students need to trust and respect their coaches
- There’s no top limit or end; Regardless of how good you are right now, you can always improve and reach a new level
- When you go up against higher competition, you get more out of yourself
- Confidence, maturity, and feeling relaxed is something that comes from experience
- Have a good social support system
- Control your emotions, because anger and frustration take away your stamina
- Be humble and open-minded enough that you can learn from everyone around you
- Enjoy what you’re doing. Have fun, and remember why you’re doing it – because you enjoy it
- Keep things in perspective, and when you need to create a new perspective
- Everyone wants to feel important. Everyone wants to feel like what they do matters and has a purpose
While everyone I just listed is important, my absolute two major takeaways here are that how you perceive and believe in your abilities is absolutely vital to how successful you are at anything. In addition, so is how you react to adversity. So if you can focus on only two things here, I’d want you to train yourself on believing in yourself, and train yourself on embracing and overcoming adversity.