To follow up on my review of The Confidence Gap, I’d like to share a few extra tidbits on confidence:
- You can have confidence without being arrogant. From my observation, those who are arrogant actually lack true confidence and are insecure with themselves.
- Feelings of authentic and genuine confidence allows you to stay motivated and positive, especially when facing difficult challenges.
- Failure can cause us to lose confidence. It can provide you with evidence that maybe you shouldn’t be as confident as you are. But that leads to self-doubt, and the voice of self-doubt is often lying, or at least exaggerating, when speaking to you.
- Have a good support team. Having a good social circle helps you maintain your confidence level.
- Continue to work hard. Confidence can be about momentum, so collect some “wins” along the way and ride the tidal wave of success to becoming more confident.
- Rarely is an anxiety-inducing challenge an actual threat to you, so don’t perceive it as such. It’s simply a challenge that’s waiting to be conquered. In fact, sometimes we need to experience more adversity and more obstacles because it’s a good experience, and a great way to earn more confidence.
- There’s going to be times when you feel less confident than usual. This doesn’t make you someone with low self-esteem or a lack of confidence. Rather, it just means you’re a normal person experiencing bumps in the road.
- Remember, you don’t have to be perfect to have genuine and authentic confidence.
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