Most mornings before I settle in at work, I enjoy reading an article or two on Psychology Today’s website. So I’d like to share a pair of articles I read this morning, as well as some of my thoughts on them.
The Countryside vs. The City
Having grown up in more of a countryside setting during my youth, I read an article entitled “Is The Countryside Now More Toxic Than The City?” Having migrated from the country setting to a more city (or at least, more suburb) setting after I finished high school, and seeing and hearing through the grapevine what’s become of a lot of my high school friends growing up, I decided to read the article. After all, I had my own “assumptions” of sorts heading into the article based upon my own personal observations.
I do agree to an extent about the idea of the bright and motivated kids moving to the city for school and job purposes. I know that’s a big reason of why I relocated out of the small town in the country for a more urban setting. So I can understand why those who don’t relocate to the city can feel a lack of affiliation as their friends who they grew up with leave them behind to pursue bigger and better things.
But to be honest, I’m not sure how to articulate what the rest of this article makes me think quite yet. But I can say that this article did, however, peak my curiosity to dig deeper and research this topic even more.
Another article I took a gander at before finally setting in at work this morning was entitled “Are You Single? You’re Likely to Have a More Fulfilling Life.” This title kinda surprised me at first, but then I thought about it, and decided to dive head first into reading the article. After all, I have noticed a shift where it seems like a good portion of people my age are enjoying the single life.
I know I get asked a lot “how/why are you single?” The question, to be a little honest, can get a bit irritating at times. Sure, I suppose it’s a compliment at times, and other times it seems like some sort of a put down, but regardless of that, I’ve never had a real answer to the question (I guess I’m too busy living my more fulfilling life to ponder the question).
The research finds that “living single allows them to live their best, most authentic, and most meaningful life.” In addition, other studies show that single people value meaningful work more, have better connections to friends, family, and co-workers, and are also less likely to experience negative emotions.
I’m not that surprised by some of the findings here. I’m not surprised that a single person is more likely to take more value in their work, and I’m also not surprised to see that they have closer relationships with others in their lives, because they have more time to invest in these aspects of their life.
I won’t lie, there were times when being single did annoy me. But in hindsight, I think that was due to the message that society tried to tell me at the time (pretty much, “being single makes you a miserable loser” seemed to be the common theme). But it’s really not an issue for me nowadays. I enjoy the freedom aspect of it, and I like that I’m more free to live my life on my own terms. For example, if I wanna get in the car and go on a short road trip somewhere (something I do rather often), I can without having to make sure it’s okay with someone else’s schedule, I can just go.
In conclusion, I’m not necessarily surprised by the findings of the research in this article (link below), but I am curious to see if this sense of fulfillment hits a “plateau” point at a certain age in life.